LOVE WINS!

I’m sure you have all heard the news. The supreme court ruled today in favor of same sex marriages in all states. NOTE: I am not here to begin a debate or to offend anyone on here. I do not wish to discuss whether same sex marriage should be legal or not. And I refuse to discuss the definition of “marriage” online. That being said…

I was excited to hear this news!!!!!! For many many reasons, I support same sex marriage. Not even an hour after the news hit, I received a text from a very close friend of mine. She basically said she is ready to marry her partner (whom I am close with as well) and she wanted to know if I would OFFICIATE THEIR WEDDING!!!!!love-wins

Cue happy tears now! I tried to text her back through the tears but I’m sure my auto-correct is responsible for most of my reply. I credit these girls for getting me back on the right track many years ago. I know I have mentioned them in a previous post or two.

We met through my ex-girlfriend. The three of them had been friends for years. Well things didn’t work out between my ex-girlfriend and I but I remained close friends with  “the girls”. They mean the world to me. They met me while I was at my rock bottom. They supported me and encouraged me along the way.  I got honesty from them. Kind but blunt honesty. I have always appreciated that. I have never met anyone as kind, giving and compassionate as these ladies! And PC loves them too!! I wasn’t worried about that, I knew he would.

The irony in our relationship is that they both have children form previous marriages. They were almost as devastated as PC and I were when getting our IF diagnosis. They wanted for us to be able to experience that. And when PC and I got remarried, we wanted the same for them. I felt guilty that I could marry, divorce and then re-marry this man – no questions asked. But this happy couple, whom I loved so much, could did not have the option to get married. I wanted that for them.

I am more than honored to officiate the wedding of my two friends. They are not getting married just because they can. They are not getting married to create controversy or to stir things up or to make a point. They have been together for the entire 10 years I have known them and I can’t remember how long they had been together before we met. Whether same sex marriage was ever legalized or not, these ladies would still be a couple. They would still live together, share a life together, create memories with each other and more.

It’s about love.

Love wins.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have a wedding ceremony to put together!

Much Love To All!

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A post worth sharing

I haven’t posted in a while. Sometimes I experience a type of writer’s block that can only be described as overwhelmed. Too many emotions, feelings, questions and more to form a thought nevertheless write any down. Today as I was reluctantly scrolling through my FB feed I ran across this article. One of PC’s friend’s posted it.

Warning: This post is mostly about a woman’s period.

I love PC’s friends. And when I mention his friend’s and I don’t refer to them as “our” friend’s, I am talking about his co-workers. They are amazing people. Each and every one of them. They consider him family, and me as well just for being married to him. The personalities range from introvert to extrovert to there is no label for this dude (or dudette)!

The friend that posted the article I have linked below is one of the first I met from PC’s work. He made a great first impression and I think he is a great influence on my hubs. Plus his two kiddos are so freakin’ cute I can hardly take it.

It is a lengthy post but amazing. It’s about “periods” but from a man’s point of view. Do not assume this guy is just trying to be funny or is explaining his significant other’s experiences. Take my word for it, he is not just making an educated guess about what life is like for us women. He had a medical experience that, I believe, changed his life!

Ladies, please read and share with anyone you know. Maybe, just maybe if more men can read this they will understand just a tiny bit more about what it’s like to be a woman. Share or read it to your hubbys or adult sons, and with your friend’s so they can do the same.

Click here to read this man’s post….

I actually feel kind of guilty after reading this and some of the comments he received from women. I didn’t start until I was 18 years old. And even then, it only lasted a couple of day, was very light and didn’t occur every month. The pms on the other hand…..well I thought every girl felt as debilitated as I did. I had no idea what I was experiencing was not the norm and would eventually lead me to where I am today…childless, in constant pain, feeling like death once a month (almost) for longer than my actual flow and considering a hysterectomy.

I could relate to most of what he wrote mainly because I have always had to rely on pads. I am so light that tampons are not a possibility for me. My first gyn actually warned me they could easily get “Stuck” and I might need emergency medical attention to have it removed. That was all I needed to hear. I already had a very full plate for someone my age and certainly was not willing to risk needing an ER visit that I couldn’t afford to have my tampon removed! Can you even imagine??

So is this guy brave for sharing his personal medical experience?

Do you have a man in your life that would have handled his experience in a similar way?

In terms of the article I posted….I have the best hubby ever. I doubt he has ever spent one second feeling embarrassed buying me products. I am thankful for his support during that time of month. Add the emotions/grief (etc) that most of us in the IF circle experience at that time and now you know why I refer to him as PC = Prince Charming. He has always handled it like a boss.. Even before we found out there was a medical reason for my abnormal symptoms and suffering.

I hope you all have a fantabulous weekend.

Much Love To All!