So I had somewhat of a meltdown tonight. I believe I did the right thing. I am always afraid I am overreacting. This has never been a concern in the past so I’m kind of confused about that part. Here is how my evening transpired…
PC and I went out for an early dinner/late lunch. It was great. We were having a great time. I even ran into a former co-worker. It was nice to catch up a little. We headed to the movie theatre after dinner. 22 Jump Street sounded like a great comedy to wrap the evening up with. We sat down with our soda and watched our favorite part…the previews. During said previews 3 small children entered our theatre. Alone. The oldest couldn’t have been over 11 or 12. The youngest looked about 5 or 6. Not long after the movie started their mother came in, dropped off some snacks and left! PC and I tried to enjoy the movie but this is an R rated film and these children were directly in front of me! I was so uncomfortable! It was hard not to lose my sh@t with every curse/slang word I heard (every 3 seconds or so). I waited as long as I could for someone to show up for these kids. Never happened! Then Channing Tatum’s character jumped into a bed, hit his head and his partner said “AAAHHHHH, that’s C_M!! There’s already C_M on your bed!” I went looking for a manager and found one. She was so kind and I could tell my emotions were obvious to her. She explained that 17 year olds and up can watch a movie without an adult present. 6 year olds through 17 required an adult to be in the movie auditorium with them. The adult need not sit right next to the child but has to be in the same movie with them. 6 yr olds and under are not allowed in R rated movies even with an adult. Wait!! What????? A 6 yr old can watch an R rated movie with an adult?? We’ll come back to that. Anyhow I explained these children were not with an adult and obviously NOT 17 yrs old. She appeared concerned. I was relieved. I also explained I wasn’t upset with the theatre itself I just wanted to know what the rules were regarding age and if I should just come back another time. I apologized for causing problems. Again, for whatever reason I am afraid of overreacting these days.
I watched the manager and 2 other employees head towards the theatre I was in. I headed for the restroom to collect myself. My hands were shaking, I was sweating… I stepped into a stall and cried. As quietly as I could. My heart was hurting and I couldn’t pretend it wasn’t. I sat on a bench outside the theatre PC was still sitting in. I watched as the manager walked out with the 3 children I told her about. I joined PC again but we ultimately decided to just leave. I had missed a lot of the movie anyways and I wasn’t sure I could enjoy the rest of it. Plus, the kind manager had already told me whether we stay or not, she was going to get us a few free tickets for future visits.
It turns out their mother dropped them off in 22 Jump Street and she went to watch Tammy. The youngest girl was exactly 6 years old! I didn’t get the age of the older boys but 9 and 12 is the oldest I would guess them to be. She used a freakin R rated movie as a babysitter!!!! If she just had to watch her movie and couldn’t find a babysitter (this is still wrong in my opinion) why didn’t she send them to one of the CHILDREN’S MOVIES AVAILABLE. It is not right. I wanted to call the cops!
It’s just another reminder. A reminder of my health, my damaged body, damaged emotions and anger. I think I have my feelings in check and then something like this happens and it takes all my will power to contain my anger. Why do people like that even get the opportunity to become parents. I don’t have a choice in the matter at all!. Yes I know this mother is not the worst parent in the world. I have seen the horrors of “the worst” parents in the world. Unfortunately that doesn’t make if feel any better. I wish it did. For all I know she is a great parent. I don’t know. I guess all I can do is pray for her. And for my sanity at this point. I hope you all had a great weekend. Thank you for letting me vent.